Families taking to success: Getting to Know Adolescents MBA Schools cooperates with the families for healthy development and success of its students. The first event of the program called “Families Taking to Success” is “Getting to Know Adolescents”. T he Counseling Department of MBA Schools not only coop- erates with the students but also with the parents. One of the most important projects of this year is “Families Taking to Suc- cess”. The first one of the three sessions of the workshop was held on October 19 th at Beylikduzu Campus. The participants showed great interest in the event called “Getting to KnowAdolescents”. The infor- mation provided in the event may be grouped under four main titles. These are summarized as follows: Physical development during adolescence Girls hit adolescence at the age of 10–13, which is 13–15 for boys. However, these are not absolute limits. Hypothetically, almost all the girls and a majority of the boys reach puberty in the middle of this period. The parents may help by accepting the physical change the children are going through. It is important that the children be in an environment where they can talk to their parents about such change. Giving the right information properly and the listening skills of the parents are highly important to achieve this. Mental development during adolescence Most of the adolescents transition from “functional thinking” to hy- pothesizing (making assumptions/for- mulating ideas), to the phase of “ab- stract thinking” comprising the skills to ask the question of “what if …?” and interpreting during this period. They start to take interest in abstract subjects such as politics, art, religion, philosophy etc. The physical activity increases around 15–16 and peaks at around 21–22. Emotional development during adolescence This is a phase where the emotions develop and change rapidly due to the hormonal and physical changes. It is important to talk about four basic emotions (sadness, anger, fear and joy) and to ensure that the differences between these emotions are acknowledged, as well as to support and serve as a model to the adolescent in expressing these emotions correctly. The parents must know their own emotions first, and to express their emotions correctly and to accept the emotions of the others in order to establish a healthy communication with the adolescent. Two emotions the adolescents feel the most during adoles- cence are fear and sadness. Transitioning from childhood into adult- hood frightens the adolescent because they do not know what comes with adulthood and they do not feel safe. They feel sad because the childhood is over. However, the adolescents do not express fear or emotion. Instead, they express anger. Trying to find out what is under the anger of the adolescent helps you find the real problem. It is highly important to express your emotions and also allow them to express their emotions properly. Anne-babanın dinleme becerisi ve doğru bilgiyi uygun şekilde vermesi son derece önemlidir. Giving the right information properly and the listening skills of the parents are highly important. Social development during adolescence The main developmental function of this phase is to open to the outer world and make healthy friendships, to assume gender roles as well as to gain social and moral values. The adolescents continue to develop their social skills during this period. While they want to belong to group on one side, they want to be alone at the same time. The inclination to prove themselves by doing something increases. They want to show themselves but also want to have a pri- vate life. They care more about the opinion of their peers rather than their par- ents’. During this phase, as parents, making small agreements, holding family meetings and not to react to conflicts immediately may work. 31